It's really a whole new experience for me when I have Collin & Aiden together. I didn't have the typical transition from one to two kids. I went from having my toddler to having another/someone else's toddler instantly. It's hard figuring out your role as the girlfriend of another kid's Daddy. When J & I were first dating, I was so confused as to what I was/wasn't allowed to do or be for Aiden. And then I sort of just woke up one day & realized that whether I'm allowed to be or not, I am a mother figure in Aiden's life, just as J is a father figure in Collin's life. Neither of us is trying to replace Collin or Aiden's real parents, but we also need to realize the role's we do play are huge.
Combining our two little families is such a massive undertaking & J & I both want to do the right things for our kids, but really....the only, "right," way is to just love them. So, that's what we do. We love.